There is much talk these days about whether women can “have it all” or should want to “have it all” or are given the right resources by society to “have it all” or are forced to accept certain career compromises in order to “have it all.” For 14 years, I have felt like I “have it all” —… Read More Why Patience Pays Off For Overachieving Moms Who Want To “Have It All”
Some may complain that we are spoiling our kids by signing them up for every activity their hearts desire. I disagree, especially after hearing about the dangers of discouraging kids from trying something simply because we’re too busy or too broke.… Read More It’s Good To #Overschedule or #Spoil Kids If It’s #Enriching or #Nurturing #NoShameParenting
One of my favorite activities is bike riding, and in the past year I’ve combined it with one of my other favorite activities — listening to books on tape. I try to ride every day, though in Chicago the weather sometimes prohibits this. As a working, married mom, life often gets in the way, too.… Read More When Hunger Is NOT The Reason You Are Eating
I counted again. She gave me back my $100. She didn’t charge me the $20 she was supposed to. My son was standing nearby… As is the case for a lot of people, money is tight in our household and $20 is a lot of money to me. … Read More What would you do if a cashier gave you an extra $20 bill by mistake? Would it matter if your kids were there?
“Life Happens” When many of us hear this, we nod our head in agreement as we think about some unpredictable event that threw a curve ball in our plans, or we think about where we are in life now compared to where we thought we would be by now. We blame our inability to make our… Read More Designing A Life
We’ve all heard of the seven-year itch, but I think many modern marriages suffer from the “children chill affect.” I know so many couples who seem to lose intimacy over time as life gets crazy with kids. The parents, and especially the mothers, often don’t realize that this is hurting their children. Mothers are sometimes… Read More You Can Have a Great Marriage With Kids
Many of us have come to think of the term “stay-at-home mom” as the description of a woman who does not work and devotes all her time and energy to her children and her home (and hopefully her husband, too, if she wants to keep her marriage strong!). I think this is a wonderful pursuit… Read More How I Maintain the Career I Love While Still Being a Stay-At-Home Mom
Overachiever moms are everywhere — they just don’t know it. Any mom who is juggling work and kids, who does well at her job, who is raising happy children and who spends some time each week taking care of her own needs is an overachiever mom. She doesn’t have to look like she just walked… Read More How Do You Juggle Motherhood, Career and Marriage?
December 5, 2014 Well I did it! I took on the biggest problem in my life, the one dragging me down, causing me stress, sucking away my fulfillment, and I turned it upside down. I didn’t completely solve it, but I got rid of the problem. I moved. My problem was a house full of… Read More First Steps To Success For An Over Achieving Mom: How You Can Let Go Enough To Get The One Thing You Need Most
May 25, 2014 Okay. I’ll admit. Pretty much everything I ever do in life I feel this overwhelming urge to do it 110%. That sounds like a good quality, but it’s not. I think it borders on perfectionism and being anal-retentive. It’s an obsession with details. It definitely leads to lack of sleep and… Read More First Confessions of An Over Achieving Mom: How a Woman Can Find Balance and Happiness Having A Little of Everything Instead of All of Very Few Things