Gwen Stachnik says she has learned how to become a calmer working mom after the non-stop demands of raising children and maintaining a career began to wear her down. Gwen was determined to earn her nursing degree even after having children. She is currently a home nursing clinical manager and mother of a baby girl and 6-year-old boy. Gwen told Diane Moca of Working Mom Warrior she found her work life balance after a particularly stressing time of planning a kids’s birthday party.
“When (my son) was first born I used to try to go all out with his birthdays, like a total Pinterest party,” Gwen explained. “And I spent days and days and days doing decorations and all this stuff. And you realize at the end of it — it’s like I spent so much time, and I got so aggravated with the struggle of getting it all together, and people wouldn’t have cared if I didn’t have the fancy stuff over here, if it wasn’t just right. The kids just had fun anyway. You have to just realize that it’s not so critical that all that stuff be just right. You have to kind of just roll with it, and what you can do, you can do; and what you can’t, you can’t.”
Gwen realizes it’s not worth the stress to try to recreate suggestions she sees on social media if it will cause her stress, because that can have far-reaching impacts.
“It affects everything, like your relationship with your spouse, if you’re over stressed and everything has to be just right,” Gwen said. “If everything’s calmer I think everything flows smoother. So I try to let things go as much as I can now. I don’t always, but it’s something I’m working on. I find it helps.”
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